It's not just me!

What I like about blogging is you just happen upon random other blogs. I'll admit that I have quickly scooched past the All-American Family/Emo teenager/christian worship ones but one or two have caught my eye.

I am currently loving http://crummymummywhodrinks.blogspot.com/ . At a guess, I'd say we're a similar age (okay so she's probably a teensy bit younger) but unlike me she's pregnant with her second child... and she's not adapting well!

I love the fact she is seen as a bad mother by the not-so-crummy-mummies because she arranged her child's birthday party on the same day as the school charity fete [does she have no community loyalty?!??!] and I too have had the same thoughts over why the cleaner feels the need to clean EVERYTHING with kitchen roll rather than the reusable jay-cloths that are lovingly left for her.

To be honest, I do know a lot of people who have these moments but it's always fun getting a bit validation for being just a tiny bit crazy-lady every once in a while.

So let's put it out there, because I can't be the only one to do these things:

1 - saying 'thank you' in a very loud voice when someone lets a door slam in your face rather than holding it open for you.

2 - saying 'please' in a sarcastic manner when someone pushes past you on the train muttering 'excuse me' in a really pious voice. [this did result in a rather humourous exchange with a business man the other day who was slightly embarrassed when i did this and apologised blaming it on being tired....]

3 - picking up the cigarette packet/fast food wrapper/similar litter that someone drops in the street and giving it back to them saying in a most helpful way 'I think you dropped this...'.

An ex-boyfriend told me off for doing this to a group of teenagers who threw their Macdonald's packets out of their stationary car at a bus stop in Blackheath. I gave them their rubbish back and boyfriend dragged me away chastising me that it wouldn't be me they would turn-on it would be him. I wouldn't have minded but said ex-boyfriend was built like a shed and the average age of the 4 pimply children in the car was around 18 and had a combined weight of around 10 stone. Pah wimp!

Anyway, enough of that, I really should get busy, work to do... wedding to organise.... oh yes, and on that note, at what point does organising a wedding automatically allow you to be dubbed 'bridezilla'?

It's a no-win situation... if you do talk about it, then you're a bridezilla, if you don't talk about it (because I'm the first to admit that, like babies, your wedding is far more interesting to you than to other people) then there must be something wrong - Cue questions like 'Is someone upsetting your bridezilla plans?'

I was dubbed a bridezilla by a colleague because by 6 weeks after the engagement we had booked the church, reception venue and photographer. I thought that was actually being rather organised and a good thing so that I would not turn into a bridezilla and tearing my hair out that everywhere we wanted wouldn't be available if we left it later... go figure.

Hi ho, hi ho, it's off to be a bridezilla I go.... :o)

Too much information....

Facebook is turning us all into narcissists.

I read that in a magazine a few days ago and it made me think quite hard about whether that's true or not and sadly I think it is. We all bash out our status updates often sharing things that we would never have dreamed of a few years back, to a bunch of our 'friends' most of whom don't give a rat's bum that "David is tired" or "Christine has just spent her entire salary in the sales! LOL ". What if no-one comments on your status? Shock horror!! Maybe you're not interesting anymore??! What if your 'friends' are deserting you!?

I cannot get high and mighty on this as I am possibly the world's worst at sharing far too much information. Work sucks right now. I'm not the only one - far from it. But is shouting out how much your boss is getting on your nerves or how much you have to do before Friday really the most productive way of getting it out of your system? Whatever happened to having a drink with a girlfriend and bitching about your jobs? Or going home and having a little rant to your significant other before settling down for a cuddle on the sofa and ignoring all the crap just for a few hours before you dive back in the next morning.

I think we all like to believe that our cyber-'friends' all care about our feelings as much as we do and that simply is not the case. And why should they? They all have their own lives and feelings to worry about. Of course they care about your wellbeing and if you were truly having some sort of breakdown then they would be on the phone like a shot but if you were having a proper breakdown, I'm pretty sure that Facebook wouldn't be the first place you'd advertise it.... although maybe I'm wrong... who can forget the twitter feed that went viral when an American woman tweeted....

I'm in a board meeting. Having a miscarriage. Thank goodness, because there's a f*****-up 3-week hoop-jump to have an abortion in Wisconsin.

Lovely. I'm sure we all feel better for knowing that. I'm still trying to decide if that is worse that the executioner who tweeted details of how he'd just prepped someone for their final moments. Is nothing sacred?!!

I LOVE Facebook though. It is such a useful tool on so many levels but I think we all (including me) need to chill a little. Let's go back to using that (and Twitter) for the purpose it was originally intended. For catching up with our friends ... not our 'friends' . I love the fact I can see piccies of my friends' new offspring when I know that I won't get the chance to see them in person for quite a while, it's great that we can arrange birthday parties and drinks with a simple 'invitation/event' function and I like the fact we can take the mickey out of each other's terrible photographs and daft status updates as a brief escapism during a lunch break or on a boring commute.

C'mon admit it, how many times have you seen someone's status flash up and you've rolled your eyes or thought 'TOO MUCH INFORMATION!' ? We've all done it and to be honest I've re-read some of my statuses and cringed. Hey ho. I'm sure I'll learn one day. In the meantime I might just take a step back and re-read my updates first before I hit send ... just in case!

The new Victor Meldrew...

I re-read my blog every so often and there is a common theme. I sound really f*&$*d off most of the time. Not sure that was intentional. Clearly things that sound quite witty in my head sound incredibly angry when in print. Oh well.

I'm obviously turning into Charlier Brooker. Just not the bit of Brooker that is sh*gging Konnie Huq. That would be weird.